My Story

My Story.

Hi, my name is Samar, and I’m a leading Love & Relationship Coach
helping single women find & keep love.
I’m a dating and relationship Expert, Mentor and coach. My specialty is to help single women heal their hearts from loneliness and find true love by teaching them to approach relationships from a place of self-worth, self-love and inner beauty and femininity. For the large majority of my life, I struggled with my own mental health, suffering through chronic loneliness and depression. I have suffered from mental health illness and had low self-confidence for years until I decided to free myself from my shame and to begin my healing process.
Why me?

Because I’ve been the girl who made all the mistakes so that you don’t have to……

……..the girl who felt completely lost in relationships but who then went on a mission to learn everything that she could, to find out about men, relationships, commitment so that I could stop making the same old tired mistakes.

And on that mission, I found the answers to my inner healing and found the love of my life, who is my husband now.

And I discovered what the number one reason was for me not attracting and keeping love in my life….

And I want to share all those answers & secrets with you

Have you ever wondered why other women would float naturally and so effortlessly into relationships with great guys and you didn’t?

My Personal Story

If you have heard of me, you might know what determination means.

I have always been a sensitive, intuitive, big-hearted person. When I was growing up, this was taken advantage of.

In 2003, the Iraq war has started and changed my whole life. I cannot even describe what my life looked like during the war. As little girl, I used to go to bed not knowing if I will wake up the next day. I still remember it like yesterday, when the streets were filled with screams, gun shooting, and blood. I have never thought I would survive.

We had to run and escape to Jordan. Although, we were in a safe place, we all lived in one small room and we were not allowed to attend school due to being Iraqi citizens. We were treated unfairly to the point where our neighbours used to throw their trash over our tiny room and we experienced both mental and emotional abuse daily. We could barely eat and my childhood was completely destroyed. I never thought that humans could treat other humans this way.

After a few difficult years in Jordan, we were granted a humanitarian visa and moved to Australia. Moving to a new country was like a dream come true to me. However, reality has kicked in when I started High School. From grade 3 straight to grade 9, to learning a new language, to trying to adopt and find friends. Everything was just exhausting and I just wanted to quit. I still remember how I used to feel embarrassed to tell my story to others and I would just lie about my background to just fit in within the society. I have suffered from depression and PTSD. I was bullied at school and had zero education. I have failed all my subjects at school.

As I grow older, I felt a sense of hopelessness and loneliness. I came to think of relationships as something to fear and avoid due to past toxic relationships and my lived experience. I never thought I was loved or valued. I was unable to fully trust anyone and I always thought less about myself. I had a lack of confidence and I didn’t think I deserved to be loved.

After years of shutting off my heart and protecting myself from the world, things started to get worse for me. My mum was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. I was externally depressed and my World stopped. However, one night whilst I was g alone, I had a moment of hope. That moment was based on a reflection of my whole life. I thought to myself that I have survived war, poverty, bullying and I have failed a lot, but yet I am still alive. At this point I have decided that enough was enough. I was going to reclaim all of the parts of myself that I had abandoned, and become fully myself once more. Reclaiming my life back was not easy; I had to work hard to reclaim my life. I started attending counselling and I set myself gaols to achieve daily.

I have flipped my life around and I was unstoppable. I have studied hard and passed all my subjects. I went to University and completed my Bachelor in Psychology and Master in Counselling tin order to help people make their goals come true. I have used my own relationships healing approach to heal my heart and found the love of my life, which has accepted me and love me unconditionally. We got engaged after 9 months of dating!

I believe everything is possible and even the word impossible itself means “I’m possible”. Never give up.

My hope is that my thoughts and insights help you to know that you are not alone. That you are not broken. That there is nothing unloveable about you. At all. I want to help you work on your relationships and emotion regulation. I care as much as I do about others because life has not been particularly easy on me.. I have been depressed, had panic attacks, and suffered from anxiety.

I have walked the path, and I know, deep in my bones, that healing is possible.

I have used my life experiences, along with my clinical skills to help my clients. I’ve helped clients fix their relationships with their partners. I have helped clients go from single to married. From depressed to thriving. From stuck in old limiting beliefs to expanding into their full potential and have high self-esteem.

At the end of the day, I hope to be a conduit of inspiration, healing, and love. And if I can help to encourage you along in your journey, then I feel absolutely honoured by that.

Testimonials

Never thought I could feel this good about myself!

"Hi my name is Lisa and I’ve been on a journey of self discovery for a little over a year now and have followed many coaches. What drew me to Samar is her focus on bettering ourselves. It’s not just “say this” or “do that” it’s how to truly become happier with yourself and learn to love yourself. This is not a one trick pony or a temporary fix. This is life changing stuff!"

- Lisa Michelson

I found my Authentic Self through Samar

"I found Samar Raman a few years back when I realised that I didn't have many healthy relationship models to learn from and that I didn't know how to have a healthy relationship without self-sabotaging or over-giving.

Samar’s Coaching helped me build a Positive Mindset about myself and about relationships. A year after starting samar’s work and practicing her tools along side her Incredible support, I met my now husband and we are happily married! YAYYYY!!!

Thank You Samar for all the Positivity and Joy you have helped bring into my life."

- Mina Adams

Samar Has inspired me

"Samar is an inspirational and brave lady , who I had the pleasure to work with her. She not only talks the talk but walks the walk. Her guidance comes from years of experience, you couldn’t be in safer hands. She will walk you through your healing journey."

- Emily Bryant ... Executive Manager

Best Vision of Yourself

"Samar’s courage , optimistic and trusting nature immediately makes you feel at ease and safe to discuss potentially sensitive and painful matters. She encourages and supports you to be the best possible version of yourself both personally and professionally. She helps find yourself again and feel valued."

- Elizabeth Stevens - university student

Gained my self-confidence Back

"When it comes to life-changing events, it is important to have someone that cares about you and wants you to reach your full potential, that's what Samar Raman has done for me. She has enabled me, coached me and given me the confidence to share her expertise widely. I have continued to grow and found my confidence again."

- Rachel Smith - Supervisor at Close

Healing from inside

"When I have met with Samar , I was in a distressed place. On the outside I appeared to be a driven, focused, holding it together single mother of three with a full time career. Inside , I was falling apart and feeling hopeless. It is notable that my circumstances haven't really changed all that much. I still have challenging children and a full time job. I’m my heart , before I have started working with Samar , I was suffering from constant anxiety, anger, depression, and pain. Now , there is peace. 

Along this journey I have healed my pain that I did not know were ruling my decisions. I have been to therapists before but working with Samar is different and helped me heal. The healing is deep and the positive results come quickly."

- Suzan R - Teacher